‘flexibility’

The Cold Machine Part II

The resistance to opinion change also applies to our opinions about our selves.  Do you fully acknowledge your accomplishments and contributions to your family, friends, and colleagues?  What negative opinions do you have of yourself? Is there a voice in your head holding you back? I recently learned a 6-step method of opinion change, that we could apply to our misconceptions of the world around us, as well as the world inside of us. Each step is in the form of a question. They are based on the scientific method of inquiry.

 

1-What do you really believe anyway?

 

2-How well based is the opinion that you already hold (data vs. personal experience)?

 

3-How good is the evidence?

 

4-Does the current evidence really contradict what you already believe?

 

5-If the current evidence is not enough to change your mind, what would be enough to change your mind?

 

6-Is it worth finding out about or is it just a case of why not? (If you believe that drinking a class of water before you take an exam helps you do better, why not just continue to do it? No harm done.)

 

I am happy to be able to share this with you, and hope that you will give it a try. Evidence is not enough to change opinion, you need to create a story that goes with it, and these questions are a useful guide to doing just that.  As for me, I no longer care about which side of the penny is showing and enjoy a good pear. For those who play the slots, here is something you can believe:

 

Two friends, Smith and Jones, went together to play the slot machines at the casino. Each agreed that when his allotted money was gone, he would go to the front of the casino and sit on the bench to wait for his friend. Jones quickly lost all of his money and went to sit on the bench. He waited and waited and waited and waited. After what seemed an eternity, he saw Smith coming toward him carrying a huge sack of coins. “Hey, Jones,” said Smith, “how’d you do?” “Well, Smith”, said Jones, “you see me here on this bench- what do you think? It looks like you hit it big, though.” “Oh yeah,” said Smith, “did I find a good machine! It’s way in the back. I’ll show it to you-you can’t lose! Every time you put in a dollar four quarters come out!!!”


The 24 Personality Traits/The Organizational Traits/Flexibility

#10 Flexibility is the degree to which you accept and initiate change over predictability.

If you are above average, you are adaptable and versatile, and fortunate in these days of rapid change! You may also seek change for it’s own sake, even if there is no positive outcome.

If you are below average you resist change and love your routine. You may also resist change to the point where you impede your personal progress.

Based on where you are on the continuum you may need to consider, in light of consequence, when to persevere rather then change or when to let go and embrace change.

 


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